An Article---bride is a Guest in the House of Her in Laws

A Bride is a guest in the house of her in laws ?

Dalip Singh Wasan, Advocate,

Formerly Employment Officer P.E.S. ll

E.Mail. dalipsinghwassan @ Yahoo Co. In.

Everyone in the house must understand one thing that this new comer that is the bride who has been brought in our house is a guest. If we treat her as a guest, she shall be happy and shall remain with us for long time and if our behaviour is not upto the mark, there are chances that she may leave our house, shall take away one member from our family and shall establish a separate house of her own or if she is not able to take away one member from our family, she herself shall leave the house and she could rejoin her parents . Gone are the days when these brides had been continuing to stay in the family of their in lawsw in spite of all non-accommodation in the family of their in laws and bear all the odds in the house.

If we read and have a study of petitions in Courts and complaints filed with the police, we shall note that the brides are coming forward with the complaints that their mother in law are treating them fairly, their sister in laws are not behaving properly, the husband is not earning properly, the husband is a drug addict, the husband does not come back in time, the husband is having illiicit relations with other women or the like. All these items are worthy to note and people present in the house must take into consideration all these points and they must ensure that the bride brought in the house mustbe allowed to stay here as a fullfledged member of this house and she should not be treated as a domestic servant or a slave in the house. The people present in the house should not have an eye on dowry items which she has brought and they should never comments on thise items nor they should say that dowry items are not as per your expectations.

This new woman which has come in the house is from a different family, from a differejt culture, from a different kitchen and she is having her own way of living. The people in the house must understand that she had been the best child of the house of her parents and they had been having all faith in her honesty, wisdom sincerety and faithfulness and therefore, she shall be expecting the same assessment in this house. She should never be condemned and no one in the house must declare her a fool or the like.Everyone in the house must know that this new comer shall be adjusting herself in this new house and all this process shall take some time and that time should be allowed to her. No body in the house can say that she has come from a house of low culture because we all are having the same culture and the same background. The way of life, we have adopted could be different, but no one can say that they are having high standards of life and the other coming to their house are from low standard families. Such assessments should be avoided because none on this earth is ready to accept that some one is belonging to a family having higher standards.

If we afford love and affection to this new comer in the family, she would also start loving all the members of this family and shall like to stay with them for a longer time.